It is going to happen to most of us at some point… you hear about an amazing opp opening up applications. You apply. You cross your fingers. You get rejected. You watch your friends that were accepted talking about what a great time they are having doing _____. Usually, this does not bother most of us. There are SO many bloggers out there, and usually programs open up only a certain number of spots, so everyone cannot make it. You might feel a little sad at first, but you get over it. You quickly move on and realize that there are always other opps.
But every now and then there is that one that just makes you feel like a stepchild when you realize that you were rejected. Why? Well… because of course you want to know why her and why not you? What can you do to improve yourself? What can you do to improve your blog? You want to do these things so next time you get picked. Unfortunately, it’s not likely that we ever find out why or why not.
Opportunities can come to us a couple of ways. We either apply, or we get approached to join programs. As a new blogger, you might feel a little apprehensive about stepping out and applying. And that is understandable. It is not a bad idea to get a lot of good posts, stats, etc. under your belt first if that makes you feel more comfortable. But, then again… you never know what they might be looking for, so take a chance. You just might get lucky. And if you don’t then you can remember that you are a new blogger and you just try again.
Over the past few years I have been lucky enough to have gotten some AWESOME opps with great companies. Because of this, when one slips by I usually do not let it phase me. But, I have to admit that there have been a couple recently that have phased me more than they should. In one case, some fellow blogging friends and I seem to always end up in the same groups. It makes sense because we are similar bloggers. We are in the same niche. And there are not that many of us, so if you look for that type of blogger, we are the first ones to pop up. We all applied for an opp that I believe was letting in 25 people. For the first time in who knows when, all 3 of us did not make it. They got picked, and I did not. A couple of other friends got chosen as well. Rumor has it that said company looked over the list of recommended bloggers, went through their bios and blogs and hand-picked who they wanted. So, of course when I hear something like that I can’t help but wonder “Why them and not me?” or “Was something wrong with my blog?” or “Did something in my bio turn them off?” Cause the opp was one right up my alley as I have done things like it in the past. But, apparently I just did not fit… to them. In cases like this is is only natural to wonder. Why? Because if something IS wrong, you should want to fix it. So, maybe the next time you won’t be the odd girl out.
I was going to write this up without names, but even if I don’t write the name of this one you will still know. Everyone would know. LOL! 🙂 The second one that has me feeling like a stepchild is the fact that I did not get invited to the much coveted Disney Social Media Mom’s Conference. I have never gone. In 2010 and 2011 it was not invite only. I got the email to register, but I could not afford it even with the awesome rates that they offer so I had to let it go. So, I had decided months ago that this was going to be the year that I made it happen. My girls are 8 and my boys are 5. They know all about Disney World. They have been asking to go. I have promised to take them. But, I knew that there is no way that I can afford to take 6 people to Disney unless… you guessed it… it was through the awesome deal of the Social Media Mom’s Conference. I told my kids about it. I told them that I was going to register if they did it again this year so that we could go. But, I did not count on it being invite only due to changes from last year. And I did not count on not being invited. I was ready. I had the money. But, unfortunately… it was not to be. I tried hard not to care. But, I know that now I will likely have to wait another year to go unless I find some other awesome Disney family deal to go (or I fall into some money). Because buying hotel, park tickets, and most importantly… plane tickets for six people is NOT cheap! Some of the rumors were that people that did not get to go the previous years were invited. But that is certainly not the case. I have no idea how many invites there were. And I had tried real hard not to care. But all over Facebook and Twitter were people talking about how they cannot wait to see each other “again”. Oh well. Moving on…
So, what do you do when you feel like me??? Well, you keep on blogging. Blog more. Blog better. Get out there and show yourself. And remember, there is always another opp. Apply for more opps. Make your blog rock so companies take notice. Remember, every opp is not for everybody. Some companies may target foodie bloggers. Others may be for tech bloggers. Some will be for fitness bloggers. Defining your niche might help. Keep your eyes and ears open. And in the famous words of Dory, “just keep swimming!”